Figuring out Miss Independent with Nicole Kurebwaseka

Every guy desires to have an independent modern woman, the kind your mother may not appreciate. When you get one it’s surely celestial, it takes time to sink in and in most times we mess up trying to believe what we have. But independent ladies have their perspective of life. They are a bit complicated, most especially when they start to really love you.

So today am corroborating with another gorgeous blogger from Zimbabwe to take on this predicament that may seem small but it has resulted in many lost out on preciousness.

Why do self-reliant girls tend to do a thing without letting you know, like completely on their own even when they really value as their lover?

They most times come off as intimidating

They take things really slowly

Now, these miss independents are super terrified to be hurt which is human except that for them it’s on another level, frightened of the whole love thing even when they have fallen, even after assuring you.

You will never know they need you, they never show, even when it’s clear they want you the need aspect is always out.

When a lady has been single for a while and they have an autonomous background normally nurtured by their fathers it is like it’s their sort, they don’t want you to come over or them coming, or a weekend away despite them having sentiments deep within.

In a relationship, we kinds strip our inner self and but out our deformities, independent girls take ages to come through and this takes a toll on both parties and all the stakeholders who help to cover-up.

These detached ladies are kind of crazy, they persistently want things to be done their way when they purely mean well for the romance, this is where most of us get lost.

It’s like some kind of crusade for them to let you start doing things for them, like help with basically finances once in a while

If her colleagues know she is independent they stand in the way and are kind of defensive of her and will take forever to trust you creating a wall in the affair

There is always an endless interrogation on dates and meetups about how you feel and think about them, again and again. At this point Nicole Kurebwaseka will proceed with the write up and make a case for Miss independent.

When I read act like a lady think like a man I understood that men want to provide, profess and protect and if they can’t do that they will not marry you or promise any commitment.

Independent woman remove the role to provide and it doesn’t sit well with men.

Yes it is annoying but before you criticise these women you should check the background. Some of these independent women saw their mothers being ill treated by their fathers because the father boasted about being the provider in the house. Some men even say that because I paid lobola for you, I own you. These are different situations that push most women to be independent and stop relying on men.

It’s sad because you grow not knowing how it feels to be loved unconditionally. The fear of submission is stuck at the back of their minds.

It’s a process to break those barriers and I understand that its hard for some men to go through that process. Loving someone that doesn’t show how much they love you and raising questions in your head is a difficult test.

But they say that love is all about sacrifices. Every guy desires to have an independent modern woman, the kind your mother may not appreciate. When you get one it’s surely celestial, it takes time to sink in and in most times we mess up trying to believe what we have. But independent ladies have their perspective of life. They are a bit complicated, most especially when they start to really love you.

But they say that love is all about sacrifices.

If you are out there and you want to contribute like Nicole Kurebwaseka from Zimbabwe who blogs at Humanity Boss, contact me, don’t forget to compare this version with the one I have done with Bolaji Gelax of Gelax chatroom from Nigeria taking on the same principle.

One comment

  1. I think Independence in a woman is a good thing and I would probably have it no other way, the whole issue is always that sometimes independent people may assume that their self reliance gives them a pass to disrespect and undermine other people, IMO that’s always the big issue.

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